If you know how to be a warm person in cold world, you will be source of inspiration for those who seek warmth in an increasingly alienated world.
This is the happiness blog of author amarvani. We talk about everything happiness here. I think it is important to understand what is warmth, and how can we become a source of warmth and emotional comfort for others. So, let us go.
What does it mean to be a warm person?
Let us try to understand this from a contrarian perspective.
A cold person would not greet you, be indifferent, show no empathy or sympathy towards others. You do not enjoy talking to a cold person because they feel emotionally distant, and/or disinterested in you. You know someone is cold when you try to have a conversation with them. It is possible for people to be selectively warm or selectively cold, but we can sense the kind of emotional response we get from someone, whether it is cold or warm.
Let us try to understand the characteristics of a cold person before we try and understand how to become a warm person or a personality:
1. A cold person is indifferent towards the needs of others
People who are cold in their behavior do not care about others’ needs. They are focused on themselves. For example, a cold person may demand an employee who is not well, to work, irrespective of the employee’s health.
2. A cold person has no sympathy towards others, forget empathy
Like in case of the above example, the cold person would not feel bad for the colleague, which is sympathy. Cold people don’t even understand the emotion of empathy which is putting themselves in other people’s shoes and trying to feel what they feel.
3. A cold person is emotionally detached
Have you come across people who keep saying all the time, “don’t be emotional?” They are emotionally detached from others, and behave only in a transactional way, as if everything is a transaction and not a conversation.
4. People with a cold personality are mostly critical of the world about them
Cold people see nothing good about the world. They don’t realize that the world about them is a reflection of who they are. They don’t care to be warm and pleasant to anyone, and so nobody wants to have a meaningful relationship with them.
5. Cold people rarely smile
Cold people rarely smile. A smile is not one of their primary considerations, since they don’t look at life from a positive frame of mind. They are at odds with most of their surroundings, work or family, and they don’t see much to be happy about.
6. A cold person would insult or demean others without guilt
Cold people, being absolutely careless about other people’s emotions, would go to any length to insult others, and not feel bad about it. They don’t feel guilt, when they insult others.
7. Cold people are arrogant and condescending towards others
Since they don’t feel the need to engage with others in a meaningful way, they are arrogant towards others, behave with an air of superiority. It makes others dealing with them a harrowing experience, but cold people don’t care.
Alright, that’s enough about what makes a cold person. I am feeling nauseous writing about them. So, we will come back to positivity, which is what this blog us about.
How to become a warm person?
In order to become a warm as people, we need to develop warmth, which is the quality that makes others feel that we care for them.
Here are a few ways to become an emotionally warm person
8. Smile often at others to be a warm person
Smile, genuinely. The preceding sentence may be one of the shortest and prettiest sentences I have written. Smile at people. It’s okay if some of them do not smile back. Some people will smile back. They are your people.
9. Care for how others feel
This may be one of the most important ways to become a warm person. If you are warm towards others, you care about how they feel. You are observant of their body language. You ask them how they are doing and you mean it.
10. Develop empathy to become a warm person
Empathy is the ability to put yourself in other person’s shoes and feel what they are feeling. For example, if your friend has lost their wallet, you feel for them that they must be feeling sad about losing the money and important documentation that was there in their wallet. They would understand that you understand and not feel alone in the situation.
11. Develop compassion to be a warm person
Compassion goes beyond empathy. When you are compassionate towards others, you don’t only understand how they feel, but also take some action on the basis of that understanding.
For example, in the case of your friend losing his wallet, to be compassionate towards them, you would offer them some money so that they can take care of themselves in the meantime, while they make up for the loss.
12. Emotionally warm people are enthusiastic for themselves and for others
As a warm person, you are positive and enthusiastic about life. Your enthusiasm is infectious and makes others want to talk to you. When they talk to you, you share some of that enthusiasm with them, and make them enthusiastic about life as well.
13. To be a warm person, appreciate others
It takes genuine warmth for us to appreciate what’s good about others. When we are full of ourselves, which cold people are, we do not have the ability to appreciate anyone, since all we have is our own problems. However, in order to be warm to people, we need to look for what is good about them, and tell them so.
14. Warm people believe in others
If you want to be a warm person, believe in other people’s abilities to do well, and achieve their dreams. Keep on the lookout for what’s great about people, and then tell them that they have what it takes to achieve everything they want.
We never forget someone who believed in us. It takes a warm person to believe in someone’s capabilities and dreams.
15. To be a warm person, use love as a tool
Someone who is warm, is loving and affectionate towards others. To love is to care and be supportive. When you are around a warm person, you would feel loved and supported, and not lonely.
Love is a tool for warm at heart.
16. A warm person is kind
If you want to be warm as person, practice kindness. Kindness is feeling of care for the world about us. When we care, we are thoughtful about what others are going through, and want to help them, when doable. To be warm, is to be kind.
17. A warm person is a great listener
If you would like to be a warm person, or have more warmth, work on becoming a better listener. Most people are talkers and only a few people know how to listen attentively. People who are warm care about what others feel, and make attempts to become better at listening.
In order to become a better listening, pay complete attention to the person you are speaking to, whether in person or virtually. If you are aloof and looking hither dither, they may feel you don’t care, and would come across as cold.
18. A warm person has a sense of humor and can laugh at themselves
Can you visualize people who are easy to talk to, because they would laugh at themselves, and would even joke at themselves. Their lack of an ego makes them easy going, and warm. Everyone wants to be around people who don’t get offended so easily, and can laugh at things which others find serious.
Humor and laugh makes for warmth in people.
19. Warm people know how to express warmth physically
Don’t you love a hug- a warm a caring hug? A hug can solve a lot of problems, especially in social and personal settings. It may not be suitable in case of professional settings since you are talking with people with whom you have a professional relationship with.
However, when you can, in the right context, a hug is the one of the warmest acts of kindness. It makes the hardest and coldest of human beings melt, when intended from the heart.
20. To be a warm person, think for, and care for others
I think that’s what it boils down to. Life is hard for all of us and we are so involved in our own lives that we tend to forget that others have problems of their own, and trying everyday to deal with them.
In order to become a warm person, we need to go beyond ourselves, and think for others. In every situation, think about how would you like to be treated and treat others in a similar fashion.
We always want to be treated in a caring, understanding and compassionate manner. Treat others in a similar way. If you do that, you would come across as warm, and caring.
21. To be warm, be genuinely friendly, and positive about life
Negative people cannot be warm because they feel that the world is a painful and ugly place. They treat others with suspicion and coldness.
In order to radiate warmth and kindness, it is important to have a positive view of the world. Only positive people can be warm towards others. Negative breeds coldness towards yourself, and toward others.
22. Laugh a lot at yourself, to be warm
Have you seen someone laugh out aloud, and wished you could join them? Haven’t you? That’s because you know that someone who can laugh aloud and openly is a genuinely open hearted and warm-hearted person who has an ability to laugh at life, its problems.
Laughter creates feelings of warmth.
23. Speak kindly and softly, to be a warm person
Watch your words and body language all the time so as not to come across as rude to others. Cold people are rude because they don’t care how their words might affect others. Therefore, if you want to be warm, care about your body language, words and their tonality, so that others feel like talking to you, because they trust you, not to hurt them.
24. Warmth is a superpower
In an increasingly cold world, where most people don’t care about others, warmth is a super-power. If you are kind-hearted, if you care for others, have less ego, and can make days brighter for others, you have a superpower called warmth.
Don’t let it go.
How to cultivate warmth in everyday life?
To cultivate warmth in every day, be conscious of how you are behaving in front of people, and in each conversation.
Be kind to people, listen attentively so they feel heard, and cultivate empathy and compassion. To be warm is a conscious, just like it is to be grateful. It takes conscious effort, but the world needs a lot more people who are warm and caring than cold and indifferent.
In Conclusion-
To be warm in a cold world, is one of the greatest gifts you can give to the world about you. Make an effort to be warm with every person you interact with. Everyone is fighting a tough battle for happiness, called life.
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Love,
Amarvani
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