What do women want from men, or what do women want in general, is a question that has bothered the human civilization for ages. In this article, we will attempt to answer exactly this question.
I am not a psychologist, but a writer. So, if you need a shrink, please talk to a shrink. Everything in this article is from my experience dealing with women, especially my wife of about 7 years, no 6 years, 6 months at the time of writing this, just in case she happens to read this, although she isn’t quite a reader.
Anyhow, I digress. What do women want from their men, not just men in general?
1. Women expect their men to be good looking, so please bro, do some grooming
Pay attention to how you look, because she cares. She likes to talk to her friends about you. She may not give you any importance, whatsoever, in your face. But she will feel good about the fact that you look good, and other people, like her friends or the world in general, think you look good. She will not admit it if others complement you, but she cares about how you look.
If she doesn’t care about how you look, basically she doesn’t care about you. She is not into you. Find another woman.
2. Women expect their men to make money and lead the house
This is a universal truth. This may have exceptions but I always say that exceptions do not refute the law. All this feminism and sexism or whatever it is, is fine. You are the man. Make some money, and discuss with her. You can obviously decide who spends what on what, but you need to make money, and be responsible financially towards the family.
We have an ego as men. If the woman makes more money than we do, our ego tends to get hurt, which shouldn’t be the case, as long as she loves you. But you should make money and do work which is meaningful to you. That also translates into respect in her mind, beyond the fact that you are financially responsible.
As long as you both are able to run a house to the expectations of your lifestyle, who makes what, shouldn’t matter.
3. She expects you to be mature
Now, this one is a little hard to crack, because now and then she will feel that you are immature. I just looked up on dictionary which describes maturity as the state of being ripe. Now, we aren’t alphonso mangoes. So, we are not sure we do ripe, or ever.
We want to have fun as men, and be childish at times, which may tend to irritate her sometimes, because you are the fucking man, and should behave mature, and serious, whatever maturity means.
So, figure it out what it means for her. If you want your woman to love and care for you, she needs to think that you are mature about 70% of the times, at least.
4. Women expect their men to love them
Now, I will make another point about sex. Love is not the same thing as sex. Love is the feeling that you care. She needs to feel it. If you think you love her, and she doesn’t feel it, it’s pointless.
This goes for all kinds of love. If the recipient doesn’t feel love, it doesn’t exist.
Women want to be loved. Love them. In fact, they exist to be loved.
5. Women want to have sex
I said, I will make a point about sex. Women need sex, as much as men do. They want to have it. They want to have it with you, you fucking idiot. That’s why she is in a relationship with you. I mean, that’s one of the reasons.
You should be able to have sex. What does that mean?
You should have an ability to get aroused and have sex. In fact, you should be aroused by her. That would make her feel wanted. She values you, and she wants to value you sexually as well.
So, try to smoke less, limit alcohol and take care of your health. If you take care of your health overall, your penis will respond, whatever the age. Don’t make age an excuse.
Sex is one of the greatest pleasures of life, and when you have it the person you love, it’s one of the most beautiful experiences in the world. If you have it with random people, it’s just a physical release. Here is an article which says that women enjoy sex not as much as men do, which is utter bullshit. The writer of this article hasn’t had much action in life.
Your woman wants to have sex with you, as long as you keep them happy. So, try.
6. Women like confident men
This is important. If you feel you are not capable of running your life, how will you run hers. Irrespective if you are a boyfriend or a husband, she wants you to lead certain parts of life, for yourself, and for her. So, you need to be a confident individual who believes in himself, and thinks he can deal with the myriad vicissitudes of life. She expects you to lead the house from a strategy perspective, while you focuses on the execution and tactics. You would need some confidence to do that.
So, build some confidence, before you are trying to build a relationship.
7. Women like a sense of humor
If you can make her laugh, she would value that, a lot. Again, they may not be great at offering effusive compliments, but hey, if you can crack her up, she would open up to you, and want to be more of herself with all her quirks.
Since I am a stand-up comedian as well, I think I do have some sense of humor and will write another piece in a bit on how to develop one.
But quickly, you can take life and blow it up to create humor. For example, if you know she is introverted, and you are going to a party, try telling her to lead the dinner conversation with a wink. You may get a laugh or an awful stare, depending on her mood. Keep trying. Humor has its risks, but it’s fucking worth it. If you make her laugh, and you love her, you would be mighty proud of yourself.
8. Women want their men to listen to them and understand them
Love is one word is understanding. People who love you, understand you. They know your idiosyncrasies, quirks and the likes. You are not the superior partner in the relationship. You are an equal partner and as far as I am concerned, women do far more than men to keep relationships alive.
She expects you to listen to her when she is angry and understand if she is angry or pissed. So, listen to her. They want you to understand when they bleed every month, and when they bleed after they deliver a baby.
It’s hard as hell for them, period.
Pay her attention. She will love you for it.
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9. Women want to be pampered
Now, you may say, we got love. We got sex. Wtf is pampering? For example, if it’s her birthday, go out of your way to do something nice to her. If it’s not her birthday, do something nice, like buy flowers or chocolates sometimes.
You see, especially marriages, get monotonous with the drill of paying expenses, running the house every day and you forget how beautiful dating used to be. Dating is a far low stakes game than a long-term relationship like marriage. To keep a relationship alive, which means happy, you need to make extra effort, every once in a while.
So, pamper her. Cup her face in your hands and kiss her. Buy her flowers, or whatever she likes, now and then. What are you making money for, if it’s not used to make people you care about, happy?
10. Women want transparency and honesty
You want to keep your phone away from her? Why would you want to do that? Women appreciate honesty and it’s the foundation of trust in a relationship. If she cannot trust you, she won’t be with you. It should have come far up in the list, but then, all of these points about what women want from men are equally important.
Long term relationships are built on trust.
11. Women want their women to appreciate them
Of course, she expects that you appreciate her. Women, like most of us, love compliments. Women love compliments from you, more than they want it from anyone else in the world. You are her man. So, she wants to know that you value her physically, that you find her pretty and she is loved.
So, care about it. Pay attention to her, because she is on you, all the time.
12. Women want the freedom to be themselves
Now, because of the terrible, if I may use the word patriarchal society, we have had in most parts of the world, for a long time, millions of women around the world, haven’t had a chance to express themselves.
She wants to express herself, and if you stop her, she will detest it. You want to help her be herself, and as expressive as she can be at it. You want her happy, don’t you? If you don’t, you suck.
13. Women want equality and you to be a man- both
She wants you to be a man, that’s a given. However, she does want the feeling that you treat her equally. She does run the house, is the mother to your child (if you have children), is trying to have a career and so, it’s quite hard to be her.
Men and women have different responsibilities in the world, given the way we have been created by nature. So, what we need to do is to do our jobs, and appreciate the job our partner is doing. We can only be equals or all relationships would fail.
You as a man, need to be the wall in front of the world, but she is the one who is backing you up.
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I have tears as I write this, damn.
14. Women don’t want to be independent. Hell, none of us do!
This independence business is bullshit. We need to love, and we crave to be loved. We want to lead, and we want to be led. When I say, we, I mean all human beings. I spent years traveling alone, and enjoyed it. But, did I get lonely at times? Of course I did.
Solitude is not the same thing as loneliness.
We want solitude, but we do not want loneliness. Now, neither do women. I don’t agree with women and men saying they want to be independent, and not get into relationships. They do. Just that, they haven’t found the right people, and they are scared of failing and getting hurt. Getting hurt is a part of the journey of finding love.
What we really need is a balance between independence and our need for love. She wants her independence, to be who she is, to pursue her career, and to be loved and cared for. Can she, have it? Yes, she can.
You can have your cake and eat it too. One life.
15. Women want their men to be a permanent punching bag
She needs to blame someone for all of her life problems.
Women need a punching bag, and you, my brother, happens to her punching bag. If you love her, you won’t mind it, because well, you love her. If you don’t love her, you won’t bear it, in which case, the relationship has no value anyway.
What do we men really need to understand about how women see us?
For a woman, her partner is the most important person in her life. Everything he does, or not, has a lot of value in her world. Somehow, women give us men far more importance than we actually deserve, and we find it hard to digest it, because it tends to play on our sense of freedom and independence.
However, like I said above, we need a balance between our need for independence and the craving for love.
Losing some independence for love is a good deal, trust me!
In Conclusion
Yes, women want men to be funny, mature, responsible, have a sense of humor, look good, and give them space to be themselves. It’s okay. Don’t protest it. Smile about it, and remember, women are not meant to be understood. They are meant to be loved.
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